Buying lingerie can be quite a tedious task when you are buying for others. Lots of questions leave people feeling very confused and a loss at where to start which is why I have created this guide on the three key things you should consider; size, style and colour.
The best way to determine your partners bra size is to look at the bra labels of their mostly worn bras. You should also look to see what the styles are if there is a difference in sizing. For example, if your partner is a 34B in a balconette bra, they might be a 32C in a plunge bra. This is called sister sizing which often occurs across brands and bra styles. If your partner has a particular brand they normally buy from or if they have a bra they wear particularly a lot, go with the size of that bra and buy a bra from that same place.
To determine your partners underwear size, again, a rummage through their draw when you’ve “popped to the loo” shall tell you if they are a size XS S M L XL or 8, 10, 12, 14 etc… If your partner is a size 12 but the shop sells in sizes S M L then ask the shop assistant or check the online size guide to convert the size.
Bodies and night slips are often in clothing sizes or XS S M L XL. Check your partners tighter fitting clothes for a help guide to buy a body suit and check a dress for night slip sizes. However, some lingerie is measured in cup sizes and therefore go by the guide for the bra sizing.
In bra and knickers, going off similar styles to what you partner already has is a safe move. You want them to like the gift. They also will know that styles suit and flatter them the best so you should encourage their decisions. Do not buy for your wants if it is a gift for them. If your partner doesn’t have a thong in their drawer, do not buy a thong, this gift will not be happily received if you do- Unless you have discussed with your partner that they want to try wearing a thong or any other kind of underwear they are not used to wearing.
As far as actual lingerie goes, your partner might not have any and therefore your best option is to buy a night slip as it is still pretty, sexy but also more modest then items such as babydolls and bodysuits. If you partner already has lots of lingerie, pick something you think they will like.
One of the worst mistakes you can make is buying something in a colour your partner hates. You should know their favourite colour and the colour of the lingerie they have worn before. If they have a few bright coloured bras in their drawer but normally stick to wearing their darks and pales, this means you should go for a practical colour. Although your intentions might be to just have the matching set worn in the bedroom, your partner will be far more grateful if they can wear something under clothes as well and you will get to see the underwear more than once if they enjoy wearing it.
Night slips etc.. Can be brought in bolder colours, but again, be considerate in the choice. If you partner doesn’t own any lingerie and wears black all of the time, buy something dark. If they wear bold colours in pyjamas you could get away with picking an exciting colour, but always refer to their current wardrobe.
Things to remember
- If they have sensitive skin, know what fabrics they can’t wear. Materials like netting can cause some irritation.
- Keep the receipt. Never ever throw it away. If they need an exchange in size or want to return an item to buy something else, then you do not want to find yourself out of pocket and a partner who hates their gift.
- Also purchase the gift with enough time to return it either via post or to a physical shop. Most companies will allow 28 days on returns, so don’t buy the gift months in advance.
- If your partner has absolutely no interest in pretty or sexy underwear, you should probably discuss buying lingerie as a gift first.
- When you buy a gift for someone, you will always buy something you think they will like. Lingerie should be no different, it is still about them and not about you, you just might like this gift as well.
- Shop assistants and online support are available when you are buying. Don’t be shy to use them and ask for help.
Happy thoughtful lingerie shopping!